The mind set of a day care provider is influenced by many factors. It includes the following but is not limited to this list.
We must understand that there comes a point that we must draw a line. We must learn to put the needs of ourselves and our families and our businesses first. Yes, we have parents and children who depend on us. We must be sure though that we do not allow them to be so dependent on us that we become enablers of behavior that is unacceptable. We must find ways to be sure that the parents actually do the parenting and that the children are just that, "children".
We cannot constantly make allowances and changes in our policies that disrupt our family schedules and time. Our families already make great sacrifices because of the nature of our business. We should not be afraid to do what is necessary in the business in order for our families to function well. When we actually do these things we find a hidden respect for ourselves and from the families we serve. If you are not finding respect from the families you are providing a service for you may need to rethink providing services for them. Mutual respect is a two way street. Without this respect you cannot and will not have a positive relationship with the child or the parent.
Please take time to think about the list and how it impacts you and your family and your program. We provide a service that has become necessary for many families. It is not a luxury for many but a definite need to survive in today's world. For others it is an avenue to pursue further wealth. The perceived need on our part should not be something we are concerned with. Our concern should be to provide the best care for each child presented to us. When we get caught up in the perceived need we and our families suffer.
In closing please take some time to look at the list in this article and think how each of these things impacts our ability to go about our daily rounds of providing care and then the after hours needs placed on us by our families. This thing that we do, this all encompassing thing that we do in providing child caring services is not a state secret. It is something that needs to be nurtured and contemplated and shared with each other. We need to be here for each other, but first we need to be here for ourselves and our families.
Janet K. Irwin